Fortunate Misfortunes

At 7 a.m., I have to wake up and prepare for my second interview at 10 today. Alarm snoozed. When it seems like I took more sleep for 5 minutes only, it's already half past 7. Finally, at 8 a.m. I woke up. Took my time in eating brunch (yes, I'm having brunch this early), took a bath and prepped myself for an important meet-up with the school directress. The night before I already picked (inside my head) the dress that I'll be wearing today. It was something comfortable for any day. The sleeves are until below the elbow in case it will rain, but the material is thin enough for the expected heat that I'll be experiencing by lunch time. I used my fave brown semi-wedges with it. I'm about to leave the house when luckily, I received a phone call and my scheduled is moved to 11am. 

Fast forward to that moment when I got off the train. It started to rain a bit and realized I forgot my umbrella, so I hailed a cab instead. I was fortunate enough to be inside the taxi when it started to rain really hard, not like cats and dogs, but tigers and lions. It was just a little more than zero visibility, mga +2. Traffic was major and it started to flood along Shaw Blvd. First it was just gutter deep. Then slowly increasing until I am in slight panic. The driver made a wrong turn to this street to make a "short cut" that eventually became a "panic-attack-for-Kay-cut". Just when we're about to enter that street, one concerned citizen tried to stop us from going. The Kuya driver did not stop. So we went through. At the middle of that flooded place, I feel like I'm TJ Lao but this time WE WERE INFORMED! I'm scared that the car will stop from working until we're stucked at the deepest part of the dirty ocean-like pool of trash, and have no choice but to go out and push the poor car on the upper side of the street. "MANONG, MAY INTERVIEW PO AKO. BALIK NA TAYO PLEASE!" The water started to gush inside the car ala Titanic. As much as I want to start shouting, I offered a short prayer instead. "Lord please!" 847bazillion times until we reached the shore. Thank you Lord! On the next turn, I am where I'm supposed to be. I feel sorry for Manong driver. I want to give him 1 thousand pesos for betting his and his car's life for me. Bbbut I don't have that big amount to donate. I gave 3/4 of my total money instead. I kept 1/4 for my fare later.

To cut the story short, I made it to the interview and was offered a job today. I got in! I'm so excited and I refuse to hide it! :)

Freedom Friday

Dear Mum, 

You're my no. 1! I am not Bimby and you're not Kris. Scratch that! 

Ma, YOU'RE MY ONLY ONE.! So, what makes you different from the rest? Here are the reasons ala boy pick-up.

1. BUMBILYA KA BA?

Cause you LIGHT up my world like nobody else. Ikaw talaga ang ilaw ng tahanan Ma. You are the first person who introduced us to Our Lord. You taught us the standard "Now I lay prayer", prayer before meals,  and the rosary. You opened our eyes to His love and put our trust and faith in Him. You literally light up a candle for us every Licensure exam, final exam, and all the other tests my sisters and I took.  

2. COMPUTER VIRUS KA BA?

Ikaw ang SUMISIRA sa reducing diet namin - you make the best home cooked meals in the world! Just after we finished eating breakfast you're thinking of what to cook for lunch, or worse morning snack.Cause you can make any day a cheat day. 

3. FERRARI KA BA?

Kasi AUTOMATIC ka, you are always there for Dad, me, and my sisters making it no need for us to ask for help.  

Thank you for making it this far and not shutting off the computer after reading that. I apologize for my WALEYness. 

Happy Mother's Day Mommy! I love you with all my heart! Here's the perfect song for us.  

Always Love You by Tori Kelly

A Repost

The world has turned upside down. What makes a used-to-be wrong acceptable? Let this article teach you the irony of life. 

Should You Have Sex with Your Ex?

A new study finds that having sex with your ex may not be so bad after all.

Everett

If you think friends with benefits sounds complicated, imagine being divorced...with benefits.  

Having sex with your ex—a la the 2009 movie “It’s Complicated” starring Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin as exes who start sleeping together years after they divorce—can rehash a whole mess of mixed feelings. (At least that’s what a host of self-help authors say.)  

Now, a new study coming out in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology suggests that sex with your ex may not be as bad as you think.

Researchers at the University of Arizona looked at post-breakup psychological adjustment and ongoing contact among 137 married adults who had recently separated. As you’d expect, people who accepted the breakup were generally better adjusted while those who still pined for it weren’t.  

MORE: Beauty Your Way Through a Breakup

But that’s not all: for those who didn’t accept the breakup, making a clean break (the advice everyone gives after a breakup) didn’t leave them any happier than trying to keep up a friendship. And if they stayed in touch with their exes, they were actually doing better if they kept having sex with their partner. 

“Sexual contact with an ex-partner seems to be associated with better wellbeing for those who aren’t over the relationship,” says lead author Ashley Mason, a clinical psychology PhD candidate. (YouBeauty Relationship Expert David Sbarra is a co-author on this study as well.) 

Why? Most likely, it’s simply that their actions match their feelings. 

MORE: Can "Friends With Benefits" Work?

“Their psychological attachment to their ex-partners may still be that of a lover,” says Mason. “So if they’re still having sex with their partners—a type of contact we usually only have with lovers—then their attachment to and behavior toward their ex-partners are in line with each other.” In other words, if you want to be in a relationship but you’ve settled for sex, then at least one part of your wish has come true. 

Of course, having sex with your ex shouldn’t be seen as a cure-all. 

“I would not suggest that people run out and start having sex with their ex-partners,” says Mason. “Continuing to sleep with an ex could be preventing one from starting a new relationship that might be beneficial.” (Feeling used comes to mind as a probable downside as well.)

But if you've unwillingly untied the knot and you decide to keep it carnal, you may actually find you're doing better—at least for a little while.  

ByNadia Goodman

Who knows, maybe couple of years from now it's going to be legal to get high in PI. :) 

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